The yardstick we use for the world is the yardstick we use for ourselves

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We always judge the people as the way we are. Our judgment is reflection of our mind.


I have a friend who made a lot of money. He sees the world as a series of value propositions. Everything from holiday vacation to what undergarment to choose at a shop.


If someone is rude to him it is because they are jealous or felt threatened by his power or success. If someone is kind to him it is because they admired his power and success, and in some cases, may be trying to manipulate him to get more access to it.


He measures himself through his financial success. And naturally he measures the world and the people around him through financial success.


A woman who is beautiful, looks at the world in terms of attraction and attention. Everything from job interviews to getting discounts at shops to dealing with  any relationships.


If someone is rude to her it is because they are intimidated by her beauty or their own lack of beauty. If someone is kind to her it is because they admire her beauty and wants access to it.


She measures herself through her beauty and attractiveness. And naturally she measures the world and people in it by their beauty and attractiveness.


A guy who is a loser. He looks at the world as a popularity contest, a contest that he is perpetually loosing. Everything from how much he earned at work, to the poor service he gets at restaurants to the people who didn’t laugh at his jokes.


If someone was rude to him it was because they realized how much cooler they were than him. If someone was kind to him it was because they saw how much of a loser he was and took pity on him. Or perhaps they were just bigger losers than he is.


He measured himself through his social status. And naturally he measured the world and the people in it through social status.


Some of us measure our life through money, accolades, beauty and so on.

The yardstick we use for the world is the yardstick we use for ourselves.



Ramesh Shivanna

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