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“Being polite costs nothing But it always pays dividends”. Have you ever thought about how much nicer the world be if you are always polite to the people you meet? Once I was travelled to new Delhi, got in a taxi from Airport, I had a urgent meeting to be attended, I said taxi driver in a hurry the hotel name just Taj, He tried to ask in Hindi like Taj palace or Taj vivanta and he kept asking which Taj. What we had was a simple misunderstanding that I should have been able to easily correct. However, I was needlessly rude. After two or three attempts to tell him the hotel name, and obviously not getting through, I was about to say , if he did not know the city to stop and let me get another taxi. The taxi driver immediately became defensive and said something negative in return. I just kept without speaking for no reason. Both of us were angry each other, both could not enjoy the journey, he was still did not know which Taj, Took me to other Taj where my booking was not. I got to...

People comment as conservative for the person who is more disciplined, principled, dedicated towards his work. Same people say, they have trouble staying focused on the important issues. But what they have not understood is disciplined, dedicated people are focused people.  What is really important part of your work? In general, it’s those activities that help you to reach your goals. The difficulty is that important tasks rarely demand your attention. It is the routine, insignificant issues that scream the loudest.  The more you give your attention to the insignificant demands, the more you out of focused and missing your goal. I learned a valuable lesson about focus, When I was cycling and also once I visited my farm house. To plow a straight furrow, you have to aim at a stationary object on the far side of the field, Keep your eyes on the object; you can easily drive straight to it. If you watch your tractor wheels and the ground immediately ahead, you’ll plow a crook...

Things will go wrong, no matter What . That is just the life is . And when they do, We will have some kind of response.Unfortunately our response is usually negative one. When things go wrong, how do you go about making them right? This is very important question we have to keep in mind at that time.  It would be lot better off if we choose a positive response when things go wrong. We need to stop crying and complaining about our circumstances, We could choose to treat them as a learning experience.  Consider the positive lesson we can learn. Or negative responses trigger negative attitudes, which reinforce more negative  responses, and so forth. This down word spiral can be averted by changing our actions, which will  then change the attitude, therefore making it easier to take more beneficial action. For instance, someone makes a comment that hurts your feelings; the tendency is to strike back, which could escalate in to hostility. However, you could choose t...

Trust means being able to predict what other people will do and what situations will occur. Trust is critical foundation for good relationships. All of us need trust to operate. Families,Friendships organizations and society stand on only TRUST.  When we trust one another everything works better. But trust can’t be demanded. We must earn it. The attitude, Behavior, discipline and clarity makes it easy for others to trust us. Person looses a trust if the behavior of that person varies. The discipline of a person earns the trust faster. Father says I have done many assets to son and doesn't clarify his son. Son looses a trust on his father itself. Many people in the organisation keep doing the good things but, they don’t keep transparency and claim I have done so many good things but organisation does not trust us. Or visa verse. I have seen many of us keep complaining, Other person is not trusting. We say my spouse does not trust me. This is demanding a trust from her. Spouse l...

Consular’s night program was conducted by FKCCI in Lalith Ashok, One of the invitee was Dr.Sudhakar , who was a consulate for the Srilank, and also in the previous month got elected as a young MLA, Govt of Karnataka. He was asked to share and he was unable to speak for a while though his English and his vocabulary was good. He was mentioning  that few months he was in the constituency by giving every day Kannada speeches. It took some time to swap himself to address the gathering in  English. My wife cooks very well but  if I ask her a  few dishes not cooked by her quite some time, that won’t taste, it takes few days to bring the taste. I have seen outstanding cricket player unable to achieve the level of performance they are capable of, for they have stopped practicing. “ Anything if you don’t use it, you lose it .” Unused  machinery gets rusted. Steel wear out whether use it or not. Wear out by use will be shining where as the unused rust won’t. So better...

The stress is all about, The gap between, it should have been done and eventually you do it.   You should have been reached at particular time, but you start from your place late. The moment you get a call from them, you get irritated about him.  You commit a time to complete the assignment, but eventually you don’t complete at that time, and you start frustrating about that work.  You commit to pay the money next day, but eventually you don’t and getting angry about all. You commit the delivery in one week to the customer; eventually you don’t do at that time. Then you frustrate about the business.  Do what you say, say what you can do, without procrastinating. “Collection of above bad incidents, memories only leads to an anger, jealousy, and hatred toward others; Finally it also spoils your happiness”. I n order to lead a peaceful life, one should control his own mind and have an economy of thoughts. We have to order our minds to forget the unnecessary memori...

The Purpose of religion is to eliminate the ignorance through spiritual practices. The religion makes you a devotee seeking the light of wisdom. All religions advocate qualities such as goodness, kindness, tolerance, mercy, integrity and selflessness. They insist on moral and ethical perfection as the fundamental condition for spiritual evolution. Without these qualities we will end up far short of the goal, even after a lifetime of devotion and worship. When these values are practiced they enable us to master our mind, which leads to mastery over ourselves, and the world around us. Although these principles are essentially the same in all religions, differences may appear due to the way in which they were presented to meet the needs of the people of the time. These three moral codes of behavior are: self-control (brahmacharya), non-injury (ahimsa), and truthfulness (satyam). They are the source of all values, and refer to the three layers of our personality: physical, emotional ...