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We have been always advised to be with right people company to come up in the life. But my experience is different. Many of the best lessons were learnt from the bad people companion. Failure always teaches how to pass. When we experienced the fail, we understand the value of the pass. We understood the “Good” only when we experienced the “Bad”.  So what is required is not avoiding the “Bad”, but getting aware of the “Bad” we should build our self to recognize the bad and what are the lessons out of the bad. The lessons learnt out of the “bad” will create “Good” in you. But we should be careful here.  In the process, people experience you as “Bad”. During the immaturity to recognize the “Bad” or the time taken to recognize the “Bad” will make you “Bad” without your knowledge. That makes your life .This is where is the challenge.  We need to work on the time taken to recognize the “Bad”. Not avoiding the “Bad or Bad people. I insist to get aware of what is “bad”...

People start to blame others around  them as soon as  bad happens. Understanding these reasons are one of the thing that will help you to deal with people who blame others. By drawing their attention to the real reasons behind their behavior most of them will realize they were wrong and will stop throwing the blame on others. The amount of blame  you do on others  is equivalent to the amount of power you don’t have. Becoming a repeat blamer  keeps your failures alive. The reasons behind the habit of blaming others are Loss of control: Some people panic when they loose control of a situation and so they try to restore the sense of being in control by blaming others!! So behind the act of blaming others fear might exist!! Controlling you: Some people try to control others by blaming them and making them feel that they are bad. If someone desperately wants you to do something he might blame you to change your behavior....