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Habit of blaming other


People start to blame others around  them as soon as  bad happens. Understanding these reasons are one of the thing that will help you to deal with people who blame others. By drawing their attention to the real reasons behind their behavior most of them will realize they were wrong and will stop throwing the blame on others. The amount of blame  you do on others  is equivalent to the amount of power you don’t have. Becoming a repeat blamer  keeps your failures alive.

The reasons behind the habit of blaming others are


  • Loss of control: Some people panic when they loose control of a situation and so they try to restore the sense of being in control by blaming others!! So behind the act of blaming others fear might exist!!
  • Controlling you: Some people try to control others by blaming them and making them feel that they are bad. If someone desperately wants you to do something he might blame you to change your behavior. Labeling you selfish, arrogant or snob by friends is one of the common methods for controlling others using blame.
  • They learned it from their parents: Some parents have failed to teach their children how to take responsibility for their actions and so they grew up as adults who blame others whenever something bad happens.
  • Refusing to admit that they are responsible: Some people can’t admit failures and mistakes so they blame others for them in order to escape from the responsibility. One common example is saying "I was late because the streets were crowded" instead of admitting that you should have taken the traffic jam into account
  • Unable to accept what happened: People blame others when they fail to accept something that happened. Had those people learned how to properly accept events they would have never blamed others

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