ARIVU

We always judge the people as the way we are. Our judgment is reflection of our mind. I have a friend who made a lot of money. He sees the world as a series of value propositions. Everything from holiday vacation to what undergarment to choose at a shop. If someone is rude to him it is because they are jealous or felt threatened by his power or success. If someone is kind to him it is because they admired his power and success, and in some cases, may be trying to manipulate him to get more access to it. He measures himself through his financial success. And naturally he measures the world and the people around him through financial success. A woman who is beautiful, looks at the world in terms of attraction and attention. Everything from job interviews to getting discounts at shops to dealing with  any relationships. If someone is rude to her it is because they are intimidated by her beauty or their own lack of beauty. If someone is kind to her it is because they admire ...

Everyone wants to be happy, But only few know what happiness is all about.  We have been taught that happiness is out of materialistic life. I was told if you score high you get a seat in engineering so that you can be happy. During engineering asked to score high, so that you get a good job and you will be happy. Then after getting job do I happy?  Not at all. Then my ambition is to earn more, so that I can stay in good house and also can own a small moped vehicle. Worked hard one year and my salary was increased. I was happy for few days but again incomplete feeling   and started looking for my happiness in buying Yamaha bike and moving to bigger rented house, Is the journey stopped?   no, not at all. The new target was buying a car and then own house and so on. My mind has been programmed to hunt for the happiness and was in the race to find happiness with outer materialistic achievements. I believed that, achie...

One of my child hood friends met me in a Bus traveling to Chennai. He was surprised to see me in the bus and asked me, “how come you travel in ordinary bus, person like you successful, business person, having more than 100 employees working for you, so popular in the industry, always we watch you in the television interview in many channels, running multiple businesses, education institution. Holding a post in many social service organisation and you are inspiration to many of us. Many of your employees travel by Air. You must be richer enough to travel Air. My reply was that is why I became rich, he looked confused for while. We always have misconception that after making money we should travel in High class travel. Must use big brands like Louis Philips, Arrow, Raymond’s, Nike, Rolex, Mercedes, Audi’s.. This is how many people get in trap of spending and collapse back all. The whole effort to reach here is to get materials satisfaction to impress the others. I always remember t...

“What is poverty – the state of being extreme poor ”. Different people have the different poverty. Someone has poverty of wealth. some body has poverty of love, peace,  happiness, health… Everyone has the poverty. Everyone undergo the poverty. Nobody has abundance of everything.   Man was going to temple and saw the beggars sitting at the entrance and explained his child they are poor people and poverty state. He went inside the temple and started praying with the God to provide the health. Child was confused. My experience in the life is that, each one undergoes all type of poverty at different time. When I started my life I had poverty of money, worked for some time and started the business. The moment started experiencing money in hand started feeling the poverty of love after some time got married. Again found poverty of happiness then we had a child and so on. Also my experience is poverty of one can lead to poverty of other. The poverty def...

It is a difficult situation when children ask the question, can I say this lie to teacher for not doing the home work because of some family reason. If you say yes, then it is going to develop guilt in him. He cannot feel confidence. Then child also says, some time everybody says lie. How to define when to say lie and when not. It is difficult question to answer the children. Children witness the lies when people practice saying lie for small things like what time you get up, 6.00 am even if they get up 6.30 every day.   just to impress for   30 minutes by saying lie. Does it required to say lie and develop guilt within us? Every day my Gym friends discuss about the weight and invariably, they say weight is 70 even it is just a difference 3 kgs more. Just for the 3 kgs to impress we practice a lie.   My business friends says, came to office by 9.00 am but actually everyday reaches at 9.30AM. Just for 30 minutes trying to impress and practice t...

When we go to school , we have been taught all the subjects like Languages, science, math’s, arts etc., Similarly when we go to colleges we have been taught corresponding subjects like physics, chemistry, biology, History, political science, sociology, accountancy, business administration etc., Everywhere we have been taught, we have learnt how to walk, how to speak, how to write, everything was taught and practiced systematically. It did not happened just like that.   But have you come across the teaching of "How to think"  in our education? Nowhere. It has been taught or practiced systematically. When the man borne , he has been given a gift of ‘buddhi’ (Mind) The gift are always respected if not disrespecting the person who gave the gift “Abusing a gift is abusing Giver” If you have guitar, you cannot become guitarist. You need to learn the music, just learning Sa Re Ga Ma, you cannot become guitarist. You have to practice in depth. Similar way, just because w...

Neil Armstrong is the first person to set his foot in moon. But, do you know who was supposed to be the first person?  Many don't know...His name is Edwin C Aldarin...He was the pilot for the Apollo mission. He was working for the American Airforce. Moreover he had experience of space walking, hence selected as the pilot. Neil Armstrong worked for the American Navy. He was selected for his courage as Co-pilot.  When the Apollo mission landed on moon, they received a command from NASA, "Pilot first". But Aldarin was hesitant, thinking about "What will happen", "will I get sucked in or will I burn out? ". The hesitation was not for hours, but few seconds. In the meantime, NASA sent the next command, "Co-pilot next".  Within next second, Neil Armstrong put his foot on the moon & became part of world history. World history was changed in one second... Though Aldarin had the qualification and talent, because of hesitation, he is not...